I am a bit slow at times. It has been noted. I didn’t realise that Jesy Nelson from the girl group Little Mix had been receiving nasty comments over the internet because of her weight. Now I don’t know Jesy Nelson and I have never seen her in the flesh but the same can be said of Sophie Ellix-Bextor and Natalie Portman and I fancy the pants off them. Do I fancy the pants off of Jesy Nelson? Maybe…
Look I have never even thought of her as large. I genuinely had never noticed her body or taken too much notice. The fact is she has a face and a smile that I’m pretty darn could light up a dark room. To me physical beauty is nearly always 99% from the shoulders up and this young woman has a face and smile of sheer beauty.
Apparently during a live show a couple of weeks back (I must have missed it) she said the following:
“People are writing a few nasty comments. It just got to me a little bit. Obviously when you’ve got your own insecurities and then when people go and tell you, and write them on websites for everyone to see, it just makes you feel really rubbish.’
“Being in a girl group with three beautiful girls, who are obviously a lot slimmer and smaller than me, and obviously I know I’m a lot bigger…I find it really hard when people publicise it.”
So I did a bit of googling and today in the Daily Mail she is speaking:
‘The comments really got to me. I knew I’d get nasty stuff said about my weight from the start. But it’s not until you actually see it that it hits you. I thought I’d be alright and then I saw it and just burst out crying.
‘I found it more upsetting that they were only about me. They’d picked me out specially. Someone called me a “fat, ugly c***.” I couldn’t believe it. I’m not a nasty person. At least, I don’t think I am! I just didn’t know people would go that far.’
It appals me that people go to the internet and become so personal – certainly when it comes to abuse. I have in the past spoken about other in a less than glowing light but it has always been because of what they have said or done – it was never a personal thing. I feel for the girl having to face bullying on such a national stage. It is never fair nor it is ever right.
Jesy Nelson is gorgeous. The likelihood of her ever reading this is shall we say low but if she ever does she should read that previous sentence over and over. As someone who has had a lot of confidence issues in the past stemming from – in part – not being the most gorgeous person on the planet you have to find that inner place where you realise that you are who you are and that what you are is as good as anyone else on the planet. When you find that place you can move forward and be a lot happier.
From that superficial standpoint of looks though this young woman doesn’t have to worry. She may not be a stick insect but she is stunning and that comes from a person with old-fashioned 20/20 vision. If she ever wanted a date with a 28 year-old dull blogger then I’m around. However I don’t think she’ll be needing or wanting me – she’ll have a whole bunch of suitors I’m sure of that.
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